Personal training will help here.
“I’m supposedly going out for freedom, but freedom won’t be here,” he says out loud, talking to himself or to me, hunched over a little as if he’s accepted the evil of fate and stopped fighting. And yet I say, you’re here, meaning you haven’t given up yet. It takes courage to stand up to our lives and say – no, that’s not what I was hoping for, that’s not what I was aiming for, and to ask “and what now?” Whether to surrender and fall into a cliché – that’s how it is in life, or to find the courage and move to another place, to a place that still doesn’t have an exact address, but deep inside we feel that there is such a place. This place may have been before you gave up, before you surrendered to the burden, to family and social dictates, before you gave up creativity in favor of the security of routine, and maybe it’s just waiting to be born right now from a more mature and sober place.
The need to change haunts us throughout life. Sometimes following events and crises, sometimes as a natural life mechanism of the need for change as a life-stirring force, from a place of curiosity about the different other. But this need in most cases comes wrapped up and unclear, and in various forms such as restlessness, a feeling of boredom, frustration, dissatisfaction, outbursts or a desire to run away, break things and that’s it. The difficulty is a sign that something there is no longer working. It’s not working right for your life as it is right now. And maybe it’s not the life you chose at all…
Mental restlessness, sometimes weakness or illness, are external forms of essential internal questions that we are not always willing to dare to ask out loud. Out of fear. Fear of leaving our comfort zone, fear of receiving answers that will require new and challenging actions, fear of discovering that perhaps we have not been in the right place so far and what that says about me and what I have done so far.
Learning and personal development in the personal training process
There is no way to avoid or circumvent this, because learning and development happen in the zone of discomfort. It is the only way to discover our additional or hidden strengths. To discover that there are more possibilities and more ways to think, to look at the world, and even to live our lives.
No matter how much knowledge we have, it doesn’t actually create change. Arguments and explanations don’t bring about change either. We know a lot of things, we know what is right and what is needed, but we don’t really apply them. What can help? Challenging, observing, questioning, and examining the axioms of your life, your habits, your value system, and the way in which the ego dictates the path.
Putting a question mark on your way of thinking is the beginning of a possibility for a different awareness that awakens new feelings, and accordingly the behavior and choice. The thing is that we have a very, very hard time doing it for ourselves. For others it is easily possible, but for ourselves…after all, that is how we live, otherwise we would have changed already..right? It is a bit like asking a head surgeon to operate on his own head…beyond the technical problem
Personal training process
In professional personal coaching , you can stop for a moment and ask questions, examine your way of thinking, the behavior of your ego and your values. Examining yourself as a Zen allows you to connect with hidden forces, make the right decisions that are appropriate for what you want to achieve today in your life. A broader view of life and the reality and possibilities inherent in it. The professional concept of coaching is that a person has the full potential to fulfill himself, all he needs is to train additional parts of himself that have so far been pushed aside for all sorts of life reasons and habits. The coaching process helps increase awareness and perception, thus allowing you to make decisions from a broader place, connected to your essence, emotion and inner motivation.
